How To Have An Awesome Rough Sex Experience With Your Partner?
Sensual sex that includes a lot of touching, kissing, nipple play, and everything else that could be considered intimate feels excellent, as it should, of course, but there comes the point in your life when you start asking yourself if you would enjoy a bit of rough play, right? If so, I will give you a few pointers on how to do so safely, so you and your partner can have the time of your lives without accidentally hurting one another!
Everyone thinks that rough sex is pretty straightforward. You just get naked and start fucking each other as hard as you can, right? Wrong! Even though it might seem like that, certain things need to be discussed so that both of you are on the same page before proceeding with anything.
Rough sex can include many things like spanking, BDSM, choking, hair pulling, and slapping, but you should be careful when doing such things. If you exceed the limit, you might hurt your partner and turn pleasure into a painful experience that neither of you wants! So, to prevent such horrible things from happening, let’s discuss how you should bring this topic to the table and how to convince your partner to do something new with you as long as he or she is open-minded!
Be confident and communicate properly!
As I’ve said, you must discuss a couple of things with your partner before indulging in hardcore sex. You must first find the right time and way to discuss this topic. If you haven’t discussed having rough sex with your partner previously, it wouldn’t be wise to mention this out of the blue. Instead, pick the perfect moment, and ease your way into this topic. After that, everything will go smoothly as long as you know your partner is interested in trying new things!
If you agree that rough sex is the next thing you should bring into the bedroom, here are some of the things worth discussing. You might want to try a bit more than your partner, but that’s why talking about everything is so important. Here are some of the things that you might want to try:
- Hair Pulling
I’m pretty sure you might think of a couple more things that would be a part of rough sex, but I think this is enough for now, wouldn’t you agree? As you can see, some of these things are less extreme than others, so the best thing would be to slowly try doing one thing at a time and see what makes you the happiest. Also, you can’t forget about what your partner might feel at the same time. For example, you might enjoy slapping your partner and feeling something you never felt before, but that might not be mutual. So, in order to keep things running smoothly, you should come up with some safe word that would let you know if you went too far, but I’ll get into that a bit later. For now, let’s see how you could add a few things into your regular sex life and do them correctly!
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Rough sex requires a lot of confidence and communication!
I understand if you might feel like you don’t know what you are supposed to do because you are just getting into rough sex! Well, put your worries aside because I’m here to guide you in the right direction! Once you get more comfortable with doing unspeakable things to your partner, you won’t get enough rough sex!
You must be asking yourself why a safe word is a must when it comes to rough sex, right? Well, beginners might not feel comfortable letting their partners do all kinds of things to them without being to stop them. So, if the two of you come up with a safe word or gesture to signal your partner that it’s time to stop, you won’t have to worry about anything. If you feel like your partner has gone too far, you can just say your safe word or use the previously agreed-upon gesture, and your partner will stop. For example, your partner might get carried away while spanking you with the Saffron Loop Paddle, so you should let him know once you feel uncomfortable!
Now that we got that out of the way, how about I tell you why rough sex has become very popular nowadays and how many people crave such sex as often as possible?
Are many people into rough sex?
Well, I could say the answer is yes, but let’s now jump to any conclusions. Based on the research done on university students, 54% of girls have been choked at least once in their lives and actually enjoyed it. The girls in question were between the ages of 18 and 24, so the overall number might be even higher if we include all the girls that are a bit older!
Choking is just one part of the rough sex. Still, once they were asked about rough sex in general, 41% of the asked girls said that they would like to have rough sex every time, and 11% said that they preferred not to have rough sex. The rest were occasionally interested in doing something unusual. So, generally speaking, I could say that about half the popular is okay with having rough sex, and the other half is not so much. I hope that clears things up a bit!
When asked if they had a traumatic experience, just a few percent of the asked people said that they experienced something that scarred them at least once, but they moved on quite quickly. Even though it’s not ideal for something to happen that freaks you out, you shouldn’t give up on having rough sex just because a few of many people had a bad experience. If you find the right partner, anything can be pleasant as long as both of you know what you want and when to stop!
Some people will draw a line at choking, and a bit of spanking, which is totally fine in the beginning, but if you want to bring fire back in your relationship, you might want to consider doing something more extreme. For example, you could purchase the Ring Metal Handcuffs and try them out on each other. Once you immobilize your partner, you can take control of him or her! Not only will you handcuff them to the bed railing, but you will also be able to do all kinds of things to them because they won’t be able to stop you!
Depending on your open-mindedness, you might want to include some of the toys from Cirilla’s store and see how that feels. There are endless possibilities you could do in bed with your partner, but make sure you don’t exceed the limit because that might ruin the overall experience!
Don’t forget about the lubrication!
Considering rough sex life usually doesn’t involve a lot of kissing, caressing, and touching, you can’t forget about using lubrication for both your and the sake of your partner. This won’t be like the sex you’re used to. No! Quite the opposite. There will be a lot of thrusting, spanking, choking, and many other things. In other words, you might get friction burn from all the moving around the bed unless you use plenty of lubrication. I hope I made that as clear as I intended.
Even though you don’t really have to use plenty of lube, it’s recommended to do so if you are interested in having the time of your life. Combining lubrication and various sex toys might lead to something extraordinary, so open-minded people can try many new things at once and see what suits them best!
Benefits of rough sex
There are many benefits to having sex in general, but even more when having rough sex! For example, you can express your feeling towards your partner by doing certain things in bed. I understand if you don’t see how having rough sex can show how much you love your partner, but trust me, it really can!
The type of sex you will have at that moment might not scream out “love,” but the feeling after finishing the rough session will! You can remain in bed with your partner, cuddle, and make out. Once you’re doing the dirty deed, you can start kissing, caressing each other, and doing anything else that will make you feel better after “punishing” one another! I think you will agree with me when I say that using a Saffron Ball Gag combined with a whip definitely doesn’t suggest much love between two persons, but that’s precisely the point of rough sex. If you decide to get wild with your partner, you should forget about all those emotions and just do unspeakable things because you will get very intimate once you’re done!
If there’s something on your mind and you would like to express it but don’t know how, why not try so while having rough sex with your partner? I’m not talking about any type of violence; you can bite each other’s lips, include spanking, and maybe even spit on each other, but only as long as both of you are comfortable with doing that. Spanking and slapping don’t seem as extreme as spitting on the person you love. So, I can’t express how important it is to decide what’s on the table and what’s still out of the picture, at least in the beginning!
Look after your partner afterward!
As I’ve said earlier, you’ll need to show your partner how much you love them after the deed is done. The things you do to and with them might suggest otherwise, so that’s why you should be there for them and spend some time together. I’m talking about cuddling them, talking about what you just did, and taking a long bath together so you can have some quiet time together.
You’ll probably get tired after the rough sessions, so remember to drink some water or tea and moisturize areas that have been spanked or slapped. Once that’s all done, you can do everything again and maybe even include a few extra things you were scared of doing for the first time!
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